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The founder of The Kinky Butler is slave chase tramel. From primary school onward, he had fantasies of serving as a butler for his schoolyard crushes. Later, when he had the pleasure to serve as a butler at a kinky formal dinner, he realized that butling could be more than a fantasy. As he gathered resources from professional butlers and service-oriented kinksters alike, he realized that he may not be alone in his search. Thus, he created The Kinky Butler to help kinksters bring an air of luxury to their everyday service.

Thriving When You Don’t Have Someone to Serve

Someone in a Discord community that I moderate asked for advice about maintaining life structure after the relationships supporting it ends. This is a topic of interest for me, and I’d like to share my thoughts. I am someone who is only fully functional when I have a D-type in my life. There’s a lot …

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The Monk & the Soldier: Understanding the Relationship between Service and Sacrifice

I was recently asked to explain my interest in orgasm control. You may be wondering how this relates to service, but you’ll find that my reasons for enjoying service and orgasm control are quite similar. As I’ve recently been in contact with a few vanilla people who don’t understand my desire to serve at all, …

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A Fair Exchange: What a Servant Might Ask for in Return

A Domme recently contacted asking for advice on how to find a local service submissive. She mentioned that she was looking for someone who would be satisfied with just the opportunity to serve, asking for nothing else in return. I’ve had conversations like this with many people and I think this points to a common …

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Considering the Teamwork Model for Service-Focused Relationships

For me, the paradigm that resonates for service-focused power dynamics is a team working together to achieve a common goal. The power differential in the team can be negotiated, but the main cohesion is the sharing of values and a long-term vision. In my opinion, this paradigm works well for the service-focused relationships inspired by …

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Service for the Other Love Languages

Gary Chapman formed the concept of love languages in his experience as a marital counselor. While it hasn’t been proven scientifically, many people find it helpful to frame the ways that they express affection. While Chapman seems to be focused on heterosexual and vanilla marriages, many kinksters resonate with the love languages and use them …

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Service-Oriented Cuckolding

In my experience, many people in the kink community think that cuckolding is purely based on humiliation and even degradation. They then understandably conclude that if they aren’t humiliation fetishists, cuckolding isn’t for them. I would like to change the narrative; While the level of humiliation involved can vary, cuckolding can be and often is …

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Chauffeur Service: An Absolute Beginner’s Guide

If you already have a handle on driving yourself around, it may be tempting to assume that chauffeuring as a service is as simple as adding another person. However, to truly excel and provide the feeling of luxury that a butler offers, there are many ways you can improve the experience beyond just driving the …

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The Leader Assistant From a Kinky Butler’s Perspective

Where possible, this article includes affiliate links.  As we have established, the kinky butler may take on any role that their principal deems necessary. In Butlers & Household Managers: 21st Century Professional, Steven Ferry explains the role of the butler:  A butler exists essentially to smooth the lives of his employer by taking over many …

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