This post includes text I wrote in Winter 2020 for a now defunct blog. Since I’ve seen the need for this topic to be considered and very little coverage of it, I rediscovered this text and edited it lightly to share: Recently, I was considering seeking a job. However, within two minutes of my friendly …
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All of the definitions I’ve seen for kink fall short, so I had to develop my own. This became relevant because I’ve been accepted to speak at the Popular Culture Association’s 2022 national conference in The Eros, Pornography, & Popular Culture Area. Since this is an academic space, not a kink one, I feel that …
I am fascinated with the mental aspects of power exchange. Rope and pain play are wonderful, and yet they only call to me as a physical manifestation of the mental control that power exchange offers. And I often wonder how needs play into power exchange relationships. Does one person give up their needs for another? …
During the Master/slave Conference 2019, I met people in a variety of dynamics, all under the wide umbrella of Master/slave. While walking through the hotel, I met a woman and her companions. The woman had a strong presence and was dressed to the nines with a beautiful vintage updo and gown. Her companions, a man …
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A gentleman on Reddit’s r/BDSMcommunity posted asking for advice, saying he “[feels] overwhelmed with the sheer amount of stuff I need to learn, want to learn.” He was essentially asking what kinky play and sex skills should a Dominant develop, and specifically mentioned that he wasn’t interested in “mental stuff like confidence or self esteem.” This was …
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