Moving forward, this site will be divided into three parts. The Kinky Butler contains resources about formal service and slave chase is oriented around my personal journey and experiences. The new addition, The Kinky Homemaker, will explore the practical, day-to-day service that The Kinky Butler often did not or could not touch on. So why …
When I was at MTTA’s Male slave Weekend, which takes place in Master Taino’s home, he said something that really blew me away. “My slave,” he said, gesturing towards slave paul, “…has only one directive: Care for my home. That’s it.” Of course, they have been together for quite some time, and his slave knows …
In previous power exchange relationships, I focused on the value that I provide through service. Sure, these people were with me because they liked me as a person as well, but the main element I provided, I thought, was my service. Now this took a very flexible definition of service as well. At one point …
I am disabled. I struggle with chronic fatigue and pain. It can vary in intensity, but it always affects my life, especially my service. I don’t mention this for pity, as I’ve had enough pity for one lifetime. No, I share these details because I know that many service-oriented kinksters already struggle with a disability …
Someone in a Discord community that I moderate asked for advice about maintaining life structure after the relationships supporting it ends. This is a topic of interest for me, and I’d like to share my thoughts. I am someone who is only fully functional when I have a D-type in my life. There’s a lot …
A Domme recently contacted asking for advice on how to find a local service submissive. She mentioned that she was looking for someone who would be satisfied with just the opportunity to serve, asking for nothing else in return. I’ve had conversations like this with many people and I think this points to a common …
A Fair Exchange: What a Servant Might Ask for in Return Read More »
For me, the paradigm that resonates for service-focused power dynamics is a team working together to achieve a common goal. The power differential in the team can be negotiated, but the main cohesion is the sharing of values and a long-term vision. In my opinion, this paradigm works well for the service-focused relationships inspired by …
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Gary Chapman formed the concept of love languages in his experience as a marital counselor. While it hasn’t been proven scientifically, many people find it helpful to frame the ways that they express affection. While Chapman seems to be focused on heterosexual and vanilla marriages, many kinksters resonate with the love languages and use them …
