In previous power exchange relationships, I focused on the value that I provide through service. Sure, these people were with me because they liked me as a person as well, but the main element I provided, I thought, was my service. Now this took a very flexible definition of service as well. At one point …
We approach the one hundred year anniversary of the publication of the seminal etiquette book, Etiquette in Society, in Business, in Politics and at Home by Emily Post. I know that many people, kinky and vanilla alike, have decided that etiquette isn’t relevant to them in their everyday lives. Maybe they google how to sign …
Someone in a Discord community that I moderate asked for advice about maintaining life structure after the relationships supporting it ends. This is a topic of interest for me, and I’d like to share my thoughts. I am someone who is only fully functional when I have a D-type in my life. There’s a lot …
I was recently asked to explain my interest in orgasm control. You may be wondering how this relates to service, but you’ll find that my reasons for enjoying service and orgasm control are quite similar. As I’ve recently been in contact with a few vanilla people who don’t understand my desire to serve at all, …
The Monk & the Soldier: Understanding the Relationship between Service and Sacrifice Read More »
A Domme recently contacted asking for advice on how to find a local service submissive. She mentioned that she was looking for someone who would be satisfied with just the opportunity to serve, asking for nothing else in return. I’ve had conversations like this with many people and I think this points to a common …
A Fair Exchange: What a Servant Might Ask for in Return Read More »
Luke Skywalker. Harry Potter. Katniss Everdeen. Before the ubiquity of television, perhaps I would mention Odysseus or Sherlock Holmes. We can all think of heroes that we admire. And who doesn’t want to be the next Harry Potter of their world? Most likely, you’ve been the center of your own narrative for all of your …
