Butler Skills & Traits

One of the most well-known aspects of the butler is the depth and breadth of their skills. A professional butler may consider some of these skills commonplace, and yet others on this list are practiced only if another staff member isn’t available. As kinky butlers don’t often have additional staff at the ready, they may also be asked to function as a valet, personal assistant, or chauffeur regularly, which would be unusual for a professional butler. Nonetheless, I hope these lists benefit you.

I pulled this information from The International Institute of Modern Butlers’ Household Staff Definitions and filled in any gaps using the curriculum of the active butler schools.


  • Project Management
  • Administrative & Organizational Skills
  • Business & Management Skills
  • Etiquette & Protocol
  • Written & Verbal Communication Skills
  • Companionship Skills
  • Concierge Skills
  • Toast Mastery
  • Event Planning
  • Housekeeping
  • Clothing Alteration
  • Cigar Service
  • Shoe Care
  • Tea & Coffee Service
  • Formal Food Service
  • Cooking Skills
  • Care of Clothing
  • Travel & Packing Skills
  • Handyman Skills
  • Knowledge of Cleaning Techniques
  • Chauffeuring Skills
  • Pet Minding
  • Knowledge of Wine & Spirits
  • Knowledge of Fashion
  • Flower Arranging
  • Care of Fine Arts, Antiques, Silver, China, and Cars


  • Flexibility
  • Gracious and humble
  • Trustworthy and loyal
  • An eye for detail and ability to anticipate
  • Professional in appearance and performance
  • Ability to read the mood of principal’s and other household members and adapt accordingly
  • Experienced in delivery of thoughtful, discreet, and unobtrusive service
  • Demonstrated discretion and confidentiality
  • Organizational skills and eye for detail
  • Knowing the appropriate use of power-infused language

If I have missed anything, please reach out to me via email.

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